But there is also another kind of “selfishness” that simply means taking care of yourself and going what you want, without hurting others. I wrote about it in another PT post, “Good, neutral and evil selfishness.” The four agreements© were published in 1997 and have sold about 9 million times. He has been on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly a decade. Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are those we make with ourselves. If I have to name four betrayals that I usually do to myself, will they be? One of the most important teachings of wisdom in the Toltec tradition is that we all dream — to dream of a unique vision and experience of the universe. It`s at the beginning of “The Four Accords,” and my experience is that a lot of people slip into that part and go to the chords. I like what you`re saying. If you`ve written a book about your spontaneous chords, I`ll read it. If your faith creates deep happiness in you, then I say, keep it. If they cause trouble, if the beliefs of others are different, consciousness can leave you with the choice of what you believe and what you let go. Many of our convictions, our concepts, our agreements were nourished to us as “truth” when we were young, and we accepted them literally and completely. The beginning of the four chords is about how we were domesticated by our caregivers in a “dream” of life.
The only dream they gave us was the one they lived, which they received most often from their parents, etc. We have to break many old arrangements and change a lot of domesticated beliefs to really keep a space for someone who hurts us or who is angry without judging to withdraw, defend, accuse, intellectualize, share their dream. (3) Find out what really brings you joy and go for them – follow your bliss So this is the market. With regard to your question about the indistinguishable in your answer, I refer you to “The Four Agreements” in order to understand what miguel Ruiz means when he uses that term. Most people lack his explanation because they read “irreprosibly” and distort them in other concepts that are already stored in their minds. There`s a big difference! We can use the fourth chord, Do Your Best, to encourage us to aspire positively. But this agreement also recognizes that “our best” varies from time to time, depending on our circumstances and our state of mind. The awareness of this fact leads to the realization that everything we do is our best moment, and this awareness can prevent us from having flags of ourselves if we are not up to an inappropriate level of perfection. I have neither read nor planned this book. I saw these four chords on the wall in a yoga teacher house and laughed. These tenants are what Saniel Bonder, the founder of Waking Down In Mutality, would call hyper-masculine ideas to improve us.
They could improve our lives for a while, but like all self-improvement projects, they imply that ultimately we need more self-insurance. Although there is an important place for the action component in life (the male strength), it is necessary to reconcile it with the softer outfit and to accept the maternity qualities of the deep feminine. Truly loving us for and with all our human weaknesses is the key to the non-judgment of ourselves and others, and a surprising impudence. This can pave the way for a deeper understanding that involves knowing us as an unlimited presence of Devine. Here is a spontaneous list of my 4 chords: (1) Take a break – again and again #3. The antidote to hypotheses is to ask questions. Many of us were programmed in childhood against this madness, and this can be a difficult deal to change.